Q: My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex. How do I know if he is just using me?
A: Sometimes in relationships one person is ready to have sex but the other isn’t. This can be stressful — you don’t want to compromise what you’re not ready for or what you believe. You need to do what is right for you. Anyone who tries to pressure you into having sex isn’t really thinking about what matters most to you. People who pressure others into having sex are only looking to satisfy their own feelings and urges about sex. If you feel pressure to have sex because you’re afraid of losing your boyfriend, it may be a sign that you’re not in the right relationship. Sex isn’t something you should feel you must do. Relationships are meant to be fun for both people. They should make you feel appreciated, respected, and supported, not pressured or uncomfortable. If your boyfriend truly cares about you, he won’t pressure you to do something you don’t believe in or aren’t ready for. So talk with your boyfriend about how you feel. If he’s the right guy for you, he’ll understand.